“A what? Of my WHAT??”
Here’s the deal. Every time you get a compliment, write it down. Okay, you caught me—I cheated a little. My real evidence journal is in the Notes section of my iPhone, and someone actually told me I was courageous yesterday. But you get the idea.
I also record who gave me the compliment and then (surprise, surprise), I OWN IT! For those of you who read my “Mirror, Mirror on the Wall” post from December 21, this may sound strangely familiar. This is good news, since changing our behaviors, thoughts, and feelings requires repetition (cognitive behavioral therapy rocks!)
Why not start today? Create a new section in your phone (or anywhere else) and record everything and anything positive that someone has said to or about you. Repeat ‘til the end of time. It’s empowering to reread—before an important presentation, after a bad day, or anytime your ego could use a pick-me-up.
This next step is critical: turn the compliment into an “I” message and say it aloud. Even if you don’t believe it. Even if it feels weird. Someone once told you that you were gorgeous? Say it: "I am Gorgeous!"
Own your greatness! Graciously accept positive feedback and acknowledge that you are being seen for the unique and beautiful human that you are. The more you practice self love and appreciation, the more it becomes internalized. Inside-out vs. outside-in. And once your heart truly knows how amazing you are, you may not even need those compliments anymore.
I’m off to tell myself how hilarious and courageous I am. Oh yeah, and that I’m a such a good friend;)